Funny how so many people don’t believe me when I tell them I’m an extreme INTROVERT.
And shy. And yes, I know being introverted and being shy are TWO DIFFERENT THINGS.
And awkward with practically everyone.
I really am.
I think my entire being panics whenever I have to be in some strange social situation and have to meet new people and talk to people. Thank God I don’t hyperventilate or do something embarrassing.
Maybe it’s because I am acutely aware of my ‘situation’ and I make an effort to try harder. Much harder, so people don’t know or can’t tell. Or maybe people just don’t really understand what being an introverted means.
I’m one of those who find it sooooo painful to warm up to people and for people to warm up to me.
At my current workplace, it took me a looooong time (too long!) to feel slightly more comfortable. The first few months were near hellish. It’s a good thing I am quite strong mentally and I didn’t let it get to me.
I’m glad I lasted, coz I really really like the team I work with now. They’re a rather young team, lotsa smarts and lotsa spunk. Me likes!
I did my MYERS BRIGGS PERSONALITY TEST many many years ago. I was an INTJ, with a very high I-score. I did the test again recently; although I’ve mellowed to an INTP, I had still scored awfully high on the I-score. So yea, most definitely INTROVERTED.
So making new friends ain’t the easiest or most natural thing for me. I envy some of my friends who seem to hit it off with everyone they meet at the first meeting. That’s something that could NEVER, EVER happen to me.
I see how my friends can easily get close to their colleagues in a new job and how they would be hanging out for lunch everyday like it’s the most natural thing on Earth. Or how my friends could attend a yoga session and come back with new friends. If it’s me, I’d be sneaking in at the minute just before yoga class starts, and be outta there in a heartbeat when class ends.
That is, if I yoga or do sports.
But you get what I mean…
So, I feel extreeeeeemely blessed that I even have the BFFs and the close friends I have now. Lord knows how I even ended up having BFFs and good friends since I’m like awkward at first meetings and awkward with everyone. I count and I thank my lucky stars every other day for the BFFs and good friends who have come my way and stayed.
Stumbled upon this ultra-cute vid of two 100-year-old-BFFs. They’ve known each other for, what, 90-over years!! Love especially the part on iOS ^o^
One of my BFFs is someone I don’t meet very often, CL.
Super dear to me in many, many ways. He’s very thoughtful, kind and generous too. Over the years, other than gifting me with his friendship and being there for me when I’m down or lost or both, he has also bought me stuff. So here’s a shoutout THANKS CL!
And a couple of weeks ago, I came home to a parcel.
Hmmm… No idea what it was. The brand(?) on the package didn’t look familiar at all, and I don’t remember ordering anything online recently.
It’s a MOS SPRING LIGHTNING CABLE!! This spring lightning cable is supposedly indestructible, unbreakable.
Whoa! Did he remember me complaining about my iPhone charging cable kept breaking?! I’d already thrown two away, and a third one is now scotch-taped on both ends.
And later, he also sent me THIS LINK ON A CHEAPER OPTION. So if like me, you’re also fretting over your iPhone or iPad cables, check these two options out!
We caught up over beer last week.
Same old story every single time. We would meet for a cuppa or a drink, and we would just be sitting down and chatting…. and time would just speed us by. Three, four hours would just pass without us feeling it. I think if not for the fact that he has a beautiful wife and two kids to go home to, we would probably yak until the wee hours of the night.
Honestly, I’ve no idea how come we seem to have endless things to talk about, but we do. All I know is that I’m very very grateful he came into my life. Thank you, CL!
And… on the subject of friends…
I’m a firm believer of people who eat (or drink) together tend to get closer. Haha, think the Koreans believe deeeeeeply in this too! See how they always suggest makan and drinking sessions? No quicker way to get all close and familiar than to sit down at a table and eat together.
Like how the team did last week.
Yea, I know I’ve already said I love the peeps I work with!
Some people say THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORK FRIENDS AND REAL FRIENDS. What do you think?
I think it’s probably mostly true. The real test is whether you’ll still stay fast friends after one or both of you have left the job. When you no longer have to spend so much time together, and when you no longer have the same work woes or work bitch to whine about.
But know what?
I don’t care much about these things. Why think about whether you’ll still gonna be friends tomorrow if you’re getting along so infamously today? So what if you think you’re just work friends and won’t stay real friends a year down the road? Would you stop being friendly altogether? No? Then why even waste time to think about things like that?
I believe in living in the moment when it comes to things like this. What’s important is whether you enjoy one another’s company now, right? So long as you like one another, you have fun together and you look out for one another, even if it’s just for today, it’s good enough, right? Would you give up being happy today just because you think this friendship wouldn’t last the tenure of your job? *shrugs*
And anyway, while most work friends do fade away after one or both of you have left the company, I have also seen work friends become real friends. So who’s to say what, ya?