Before I joined my current organization, I was a freelance social media consultant. One of the main things I did was managing Facebook pages for companies and brands.
I did that for close to three years.
But even during those days when it was actually my job to be online, and also that I had all the time in the world, I didn’t take to Facebooking much. Between Facebook and Twitter, I’ve always preferred Twitter.
I liked and still like very much how efficient Twitter is. The tweets are mostly withint 140 characters, and it’s up to me if I want to learn more by clicking on the links or just leave it as that. And I love how I could add twitter accounts to lists, and boy, do I make full use of the ‘list’ feature!
I could, very quickly, find out what’s up with the particular category of people, organizations or causes by calling up the tweets by list. Mostly, I use Twitter to keep abreast of many different types of stuff that interest me, like newsy websites, online business, my korean hiphop obsession, etc etc etc. In fact, I follow very few friends or people I actually know in real life. And it’s served me very well. The trending topics also let me know very quickly about the pulse of the online world.
But Facebook…. that’s a different animal altogether. It’s alot more social than I like to deal with. As much as I adore following pages of businesses, brands, causes and communities, the near-compulsive need of many people to make as many Facebook friends as they can repulses me.
I am a true-blue introvert and am an almost extreme case of an awkwardly social adult. As much as I believe in friendship, I’ve never seen the need for a large social circle, nor do I believe that it’s a numbers game. I like my own small inner support group of, say, fewer than a handful.
To be honest, you can even say I’m self-centered. Or rather, instead of saying I care only about myself, perhaps it’s more appropriate to say I usually can’t care less about acquaintances.
For the longest time, I tried vigilantly to keep my number of Facebook friends to below 100.
Shocking for some, I know.
I know of people with thousands of friends, although I can never imagine myself knowing that many people. While it is probably nice to have that big a network, I dislike the ‘management’ of it. If that many peeps are my friends on facebook, I cannot imagine the number of posts I have to scroll through.
Yes, of course I know one can create lists on Facebook too, but why? I mean, if I put most of the people in Acquaintances, so that their updates don’t appear on my wall, what does it mean? It simply means to me I don’t really need to know what’s happening in their lives. And if I have to create different lists to ensure that the contents that I share are ‘properly’ censored and delivered to the different groups of people, then I think it’s too much work for personal use of the social media network.
Back then when I was shortlisting my Facebook friends every couple of months, I would happily unfriend anyone whose faces I could not recall, or if I could not remember the last facetime encounter we had. And I would, too, happily unfriend anyone whose updates hadn’t appeared on my wall for a long time. Why? Coz if they ain’t gonna update much, then why keep them as Facebook friends? And if they have been updating, but I haven’t seen these updates, then it means they’ve blocked me from most of the contents, then it’s even more pointless, right?
So, I reasoned that for people I genuinely cared about, of course I’d keep them coz I really wanted to know what they ate for lunch, haha! But for most other people, honestly, I just couldn’t care less.
And I also belong to the group of peeps who believe that many many people deliberately create a happier-than-real picture of their lives. The conservative, old-school traditionalist in me thinks that it’s terribly unhealthy as it encourages ‘competition’ amongst people to post the most glamorous of outfits, the most lavish of meals, the biggest of group outings, the funnest of holidays, and the biggest of smiles. It distorts the meaning of sharing.
Did you see the video I’d shared IN THIS EARLIER POST? Almost painfully real, but yes, ohhhh, so real!
I believe I ain’t the only one feeling this way. Read interesting post from Vulcan Post, WHY I DELETED MY FACEBOOK MOBILE APP. While I ain’t about to go that extreme end anytime soon, I do think many people are experiencing (over)sharing fatigue. In my mind, Instagram’s feeding this trend even more ferociously.
And oh, while I’m at it, will also share this two-part series where the writer actually spoked about QUITTING SOCIAL MEDIA FOR 30 DAYS, and HOW THINGS PANNED OUT AFTER THE 30 DAYS’ DETOX PROGRAM.
Although I’m now kindda unable to keep to my Facebook friends to below 100 due mostly to my job, I still try to keep to a reasonably manageable number. And hehe, although some people have waned off Twitter, it’s still a good catch-up app for me.
Unless you use Facebook as a networking tool, or as a platform to spread info or create awareness about certain causes, of if you’re actually actively building an online fanbase for whatever reasons, I kindda agree with this video that most people can do with just 150 friends or even fewer. And the close core will probably be just a handful, or perhaps two handfuls for some people.
Have you watched this video that CNA shared earlier this month? Quite true!
Yea, call me self-centered if you wish. But I just ain’t interested to follow the everyday stories of people whom I don’t call friends, unless your posts are interesting, or unless you share links that I enjoy reading. Keke, life’s too short to spend poring over Facebook posts of people I don’t care much for.
I’d much rather be sleeping, or watching my fave Korean variety shows, hee!